Tuesday, June 06, 2006

Getting Unstuck vol 6 #12


GETTING UNSTUCK
Volume 6 no. 12

This monthly newsletter is written by
Ali Bierman
ali@GettingUnstuck.us

Ali Bierman
Well-Being Educator
Helping people clear their blocks to full living

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1. Introduction
2. Philosophy
3. Lesson
4. Choice
5. Words

1. Introduction

For the first time in history we are living as the sandwich generation: caring for our children while also caring for our aging parents.

2. Philosophy

Interestingly there seems to be one child who takes on the bulk of the responsibility of caring for parents even when there are multiple children in the family. Everyone has a unique role in this world. Each of us has a unique path. No one is right. No one is wrong. Life just is and we each do what we each do.

3. Lesson

Sometimes life seems unfair. The fact is we create our world according to our thoughts which lead to beliefs. As we repeat those beliefs and they become ingrained we live on automatic. Beliefs then become habits.
Some people live with the habit �I am here to take care of whoever needs care.� Others believe care taking is for someone else who is more skilled, with more time, whatever they tell themselves.

4. Choice

Some choices in life are more difficult to make than others. Handling parental care as the parent declines physically and mentally becomes both a challenge and a gift. As with anything and everything in life events just are and how we interpret them gives them power over us unless we take power over how we see them.
When people see life as unfair they choose to make the situation about themselves. They become victims who are unable to do what they want with their lives on a daily basis. Those who see life as service and know it is never really about them and is always about the other person and how to serve them see life as livable. I am not saying every moment is easy. I am saying every task becomes a gift of the heart that brings peace in the big picture. Love is more powerful than anything in dealing with the issues that arise watching a parent decline and one�s life change direction during the care-taking process.

5. Words

The words we use when talking to ourselves determine our happiness, our stress levels and our health. People who use he word �unfair� basically tell the world they are victims, that others do not do their part, that others get better deals in life, that others are not coming through for them, etc. People who find the gift in every little and big life event find the path to joy in their spirit. I know because I went from victim to server during the last ten months of my mom�s life. Read my story and add your comments at www.alibierman.com

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